 Exceptional
Education: Getting Parents Involved
Getting Organized to get the most out of the System
Content:
A. Keep records on your child
Purchase a four drawer file cabinet or its equivalent and create a separate set of folders
for the following information:
Medical records:
- history and medical records from birth on
All evaluations and progress reports:
- psychological evaluations
- physical therapy
- occupational therapy
- speech therapy
- audiological
- visual
- academic/cognitive
- perceptual
- developmental
All relevant school materials:
- school records:
- IEP's all past and current
- official letters of eligibility and placement
- a yearly file of selected samples of child's academic work from classroom, resource
rooms. therapies and other activities
- annual standardized test results
- church and religious education records
- copies of all formal notes, letters, or correspondence exchanged between parent and
professionals in the school
- resource materials on IDEA / PL 94142
- exceptional parent magazine articles or other magazine, journal or newspaper
articles relevant to progress in treating your child's exceptionality
B. Remind yourself about the process and your rights
Read this manual at least once a year to remind you of your rights and responsibilities
as you continue in your role as lifelong advocate for your child.
C. Tips on how to handle yourself at meetings
At all school conferences, staffing, IEP meetings and other school related meetings
follow these helpful tips:
1. Do not go to meetings alone. It is common for parents to feel overwhelmed and
alone when confronted with a room full of professionals discussing their child in a
clinical manner. Invite other parents, friends, relatives, and anyone you know who might
be interested in attending. Explain to them that you would like them to attend to give
you moral support, and to function as witnesses in case of a disagreement.
2. The image you portray will affect how the school personnel react towards you.
If you wish to be treated in a professional manner, you should dress in a professional
manner. Choose clothing that is simple but dignified. Walk into the room with
confidence. Don't wait to be acknowledged, but introduce yourself and begin greeting
people as soon as you enter the room. Bring your copy of these material with you and
display them prominently on the table. It lets the professionals know you are informed.
3. It is a good business procedure to tape record the meetings. It will not be
possible to take accurate notes in these situations, and personal notes can be disputed.
Simply place the recorder on the table and plug it in. (Don't ask for permission.) If
someone expresses resistance, explain to them that it is a good business procedure to
tape important meetings.
4. Pass around a sign-in sheet at the beginning of the meeting. You will then have
the names of all those present, and be able to address them by name, (from their
positions on the sign-in sheet.)
5. When speaking during meetings, take a deep breath to help project your voice
clearly and confidently. Maintain eye contact with the professionals while you speak.
6. Repeat what you are asking for whenever school personnel offer excuses or
evasions. Remember that you are not there to discuss the limitations of the school
budget. You are there to determine what your child needs to have an appropriate
education. State this repeatedly, as often as necessary to make your point.
7. Don't be intimidated: If school personnel state that there is a certain policy, rule,
regulation, or law that requires them to take certain action or not to take certain action,
do not feel intimidated. Ask to see in writing the specific policy, rule, regulation
or law that they are referring to. Remember that federal law, rules and regulations take
precedence over state and local policies, laws, rules and regulations.
D. Know Yours and your Child's Rights which are Protected by Law:
In recent years, Federal and State laws have been passed which guarantee that all
children and youth with handicaps from birth to 21 years of age are provided a free and
appropriate public education in the least restrictive environment.
The Individuals with Disabilities Education Action also known as IDEA and the
Education for All Handicapped Children Act, also known as PL 94-142, and state laws
were passed to make sure that all children with handicaps have available to them a free
appropriate public education
- make sure that the rights of children with handicaps and their parents are protected.
The federal and state laws identify the importance of parent participation in educational
planning. The laws promote parent involvement with educators to provide the best
possible program for every child with a handicap.
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