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The SEA's Program
The CHILD System
The
CHILD System - For self-healing when feeling alone, forgotten or abandoned
In
order to grow stronger in self-esteem, you will need to "parent'' your
inner child who is nurture needy. This inner child lacks the experience of being
freely accepted and loved in an unconditional manner. The SEA's CHILD
System is a way in which you can gain some inner healing and increase in the
strength needed to pursue ongoing recovery when feeling lonely, forgotten, or
abandoned. The SEA's CHILD System is:
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C
- Calm
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H
- Heal
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I
- Inform
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L
- Love
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D
- Direct
C
- Calm
When
you are feeling ill at ease, depressed, lost, hopeless, or ready to give up on
yourself, you first need to calm yourself down. Utilize the TEA, ALERT,
ANGER, or LET GO system to help you gain a healthy, rational, and
more realistic perspective about what is happening to you.
H
- Heal
Second,
you need to heal your spirit by placing yourself into a relaxed, quiet,
and reflective mood and getting in touch with the inner child who needs
nurturing, affirmation, and comforting. Visualize holding this child in your
arms as your Higher Power embraces you both. Healing comes from the recognition
that your inner child is not alone in this life struggle. There is the adult
``you'' and your Higher Power ready to embrace, care for, and support your inner
child. Growing Down: Tools for Healing
the Inner Child, Tools for
Personal Growth and Tools for
Handling Loss by Jim Messina, Ph.D. and the SEA's Twelve Steps are
sources of spirituality and inner child growth.
I
- Inform
Third,
you need to inform your inner child of the positive attributes,
competencies, skills and abilities which you possess to enable your inner child
to prevail and succeed in any crisis, challenge, or tribulation currently
causing the pressure, anxiety, and tension. Positively reinforcing and affirming
your inner child is giving yourself the "self-talk'' necessary to believe
in: I am, I can, and I will statements of encouragement, deservedness, and self-confidence
to prevail in your recovery process.
L
- Love
Fourth,
you need to love your inner child in an unconditional way. You need to
embrace your inner child for just being you rather than for what you can do or
accomplish in life. Loving your inner child, for being who you are, will
continue the healing within necessary to prevail against any current sense of
failure, disappointment or setback you may have been experiencing.
D
-Direct
Fifth,
you need to direct your inner child to take care of you by being there
for you when you need it. Direct your inner child to be the beacon of your
spirituality and your link with your Higher Power. Direct yourself to remember
that you are never alone, abandoned, or forgotten when your inner child and your
Higher Power are with you. Your inner child is a source of strength and hope for
you when the struggles become overwhelming.
Link to
INNER CHILD Therapeutic Oil at
Young Living World
- An Organic Therapeutic Essential Oil Blend created
for those suffering from abuse. When children have been abused and misused,
they become disconnected from their inner child, which causes confusion. This
can contribute to undesirable personality traits. Sometimes these problems do
not manifest themselves until early to mid-adult years and are often labeled
as a mid-life crisis. This fragrance may stimulate memory response and help
one reconnect with the inner self or one's identity, which is one of the first
steps to finding emotional balance.
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