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Entertaining Personality

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Appearance to the world of the entertainer personality

  • Usually the youngest, the "mascot'' of the environment will exhibit this behavior

  • Appear fragile, less mature, not ready to face hard realities of life

  • People tend to censor information given them, so as to not overwhelm them

  • Class clown or cut up

  • Life of the party

  • A natural wit, comic, or jokester

  • Humorous or outrageous antics

  • Create fun wherever they go

  • Hyperactive with bursts of sudden and erratic behavior

  • Annoying habits, squirming, interrupting, doing "crazy'' things

  • Showmanship, ability to entertain on the spot

  • Hard to ignore; acting cute, helpless, or showing off

  • Joke all the time, never appearing to take anything seriously

  • Never taken seriously by others

  • Nothing appears to bother them

  • Distractors; do and say things irrelevant to what anyone else is doing or saying

  • Incessant talkers

  • Fragile people needing to be protected

  • Attention getters

  • Leave you off guard; never tell you what they are thinking

Feelings inside persons with the entertainer personality traits

  • Fear of impending danger to themselves, family, others

  • Feel alone, helpless and confused

  • Lack true information as to why things seem troubled in the systems in which they live, work, or learn

  • Sensitive to clues about the "truth'' of the existence of problems in their systems

  • Frightened and anxious about the troubles and problems in their systems

  • Fear for their own sanity since they seem to sense the existence of problems, but no one tells them the truth and they question their own perceptions

  • Satisfaction from attention given to their "antics''

  • Insecure in the system, which on the surface makes them believe everything is OK even though their "radar'' tells them differently

  • Never know what others are thinking

  • Afraid of something, but are not sure what it is

  • Sense of inadequacy

  • Feeling of being unimportant

  • Guilty for not doing enough to reduce the tension in their systems

  • Low self-esteem when negative attention is given to their agitating behavior

  • Afraid to look inside themselves

Negative consequences of entertainer behaviors

  • Low self-esteem

  • Helps those with the problem behavior to ignore reality

  • Relief of tension for those in the "troubled'' system

  • Gains spotlight, taking it off of problems while evoking feelings of enjoyment or irritation by their behavior

  • Behavior is hard to ignore; draws total attention to themselves

  • Inability to concentrate on work or studies

  • Hard to relax; can't control agitated behavior

  • Stress related physical illnesses

  • Feelings of isolation, loneliness, and shyness

  • Inability to establish close, intimate relationships

  • Manipulation to control situation, eliciting the response they desire, diverting attention from real problem

  • Limited repertoire of behavioral response to problems or conflicts; divert by humor or agitation

  • Need for attention and social contact comes close to the compulsion level

  • Never learned to cope with stress

  • Trouble accepting other people's feelings

  • Inability to express their own feelings

  • Resort to chemicals to reduce stress

  • Suicide can be an easy way out

Irrational beliefs of people with the entertainer personality traits

  • The most important task in life is to keep people happy.

  • If you have people who are unhappy, it is your responsibility to make them happy.

  • A joke a day keeps the doctor away.

  • If I didn't laugh about it, I'd be crying all the time.

  • Do whatever it takes to get a laugh out of them.

  • Laughing and smiling by others is their sign of approval of me.

  • My behavior must be OK because they laugh at it.

  • You can get away with a lot as long as it is funny and entertaining to others.

  • You help people by making them laugh.

  • Keep your mind off your problems since you can't do anything about them.

  • The only time I know they care about me is when they pay attention to me.

  • Do anything for attention, positive or negative, as long as it is attention.

  • When you are feeling blue you should always do something stupid or funny to hide your feelings.

  • People won't like you if they know how you are really feeling or what you are really thinking.

  • Don't trust anyone with your inner feelings.

  • Smile all of the time; it makes you happy.

  • Let everyone else take care of you, it is easier that way.

  • It is better to get everybody smiling and laughing than to talk seriously.

  • Everyone loves a clown.

  • Take nothing seriously.

Turning negative entertainer traits into positive potential

Negative Entertaining Behavior Positive Potential
Clowning Channeled and motivated correctly, they can make people laugh and enjoy life.
Hyperactivity Channeled correctly, they can funnel their energy into productive enterprises. Creativity and imagination can be unleashed.
Showmanship Quick thinking and the ability to make on the spot decisions; creative ability to be extemporaneous and spontaneous. Channeled appropriately this can be used on the job to create atmosphere of excitement and challenge. Good public speakers.
Distractor If they are channeled, this ability can be relevant and used to look at things with a different eye, to explore alternatives in problem solving.
Attention getter Their behavior can be used on the job to sell others on ideas, plans, or products. If channeled, they are effective in public relations positions.
Humorous Channeled wisely these people can help others find the humor in their lives. They can help others to take themselves less seriously.
Appears fragile If helped to cope, they can be open with their intuitions and perceptions concerning problems. Redirected, they can be helpful to others with their well honed perceptions.
"Crazy'' acting Redirected this crazy behavior can be turned into a constructive coping mechanism. They are truly sensitive to reality and should trust their sensitivity.
Tension reliever If channeled appropriately, they can be placed into positions designed to reduce tension. They can be great motivators by helping others to relax and enjoy their work. They make good "human resource'' or "personnel'' candidates.
Insecure If helped, they are able to identify the realities of their systems and to present these insights to others. By being encouraged to confront these realities honestly they can help in problem solving with their powers of insight.

 

 

 

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