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Why this Site

September 2001

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September 23 - Announcement email of character and direction the Tribute Site has taken

Friends and Family

Today we are 12 days into our mourning and waking up to what has really happened these past two weeks. Many people still are in shock and denial. They have a hard time putting their hands around what has transpired and what will be coming up as a result of September 11. For this reason I tell you that many of your family, friends, work associates and community members are not well informed nor aware of the devastation which is and will face our Country. We are being tested. We are being smelted in the crucible to find out if we have the strength and tenacity to rise above these ruins. It is my hope that you will visit our Tribute to the Victims site at http://www.coping.org/911/tribute/content.htm 

What you will find is:

1. We have put on a new masthead for the entire website with the We Remember Ribbon and Red and Blue Wording

2. We have six distinct topics now covered in depth they are

  • Memorials to the Victims of 9.11.01
  • History in Pictures and Stories of the Tragedy and its aftermath
  • Coping strategies for People to Deal with the stress and anxiety resulting with focus on emotional and spiritual healing. This section will be growing for weeks and months with loads of original materials to assist in the healing process
  • Solidarity: A Plea for support of our Arab American and Muslim American brothers and sisters with information on Islam
  • Who are they: A comprehensive primer to help people learn about worldwide terrorism and specifically the Taliban, Osama bin Laden and their world wide outreach
  • Reasoned Voices: articles and quotes from reasoned voices from a variety of perspectives as well as Avoiding the Email Rumors section which focuses in on the current rumors and myths which are widely circulating in these day. Please review this since many of you are sending me these pieces which are bogus.
  • Mood Views: Looking at the emotional sidebars in pictures and written word. In pictures we have: the Artistic, Political Cartoon, Bizarre and the irreverent. In written we have serious, humorous and the Bizarre

We have been receiving help from a number of you in this effort. There is duplication out there but we are distilling what we get.

NOTE: we will only put on this site links to articles which can referenced. We will spend our time to ferret out the rumors.

Please help us to create this as a Healing Place for people. We have already had over 1000 hits since we started. We know that this number will increase and for that reason we take the obligation to be more accurate and exact to insure people are linking to something helpful, informative, motivating, and growth enhancing. Please help us in this task. All suggestions, critiques, new materials, ideas of topics not yet covered which you believe should be are welcomed. Sincerely, Jim and Connie Messina

September 18 - IT'S A BIG PLANE!: Rationale for this site is more clearly delineated in response to a request from friends

Their request in email titled: Utter Confusion

Jim....the more we read...(article from Tamin Ansary on Afghanistan)...the more confused we become. Who will make sense of all of this madness?  Is there an answer somewhere so that the world can live together? This is a recent message received from one of our friends. What are your thoughts? Tom and Emily 

My Response title: Its a BIG PLANE!

Emily and Tom
I put this article on our website a day or two ago, it is under the "Listen to the Voices of Reason out There" section at http://www.coping.org/911/voices/content.htm 
Tamim Ansary is right about his Afghanistan. We have links on our site to help give you the information you need. Look at all of the Taliban and Afghanistan stuff I have posted. The metaphor is correct: Afghanistan is a concentration Camp, The Taliban are the Nazi's and Osama Bin Laden  is Hitler who provides the Taliban with the financial support to control the country. It is an oppressive, intolerant, rigid fundamentalist marginal minority group cut off from mainstream Islam.
 
If Afghanistan does not hand Osama Bin Laden and all of his hench men, we will need to do some initial bombing of oil depots etc and then it will take a massive effort like a mine sweeping operation to search all of Afghanistan which is the size of Texas.
 
By the way in WW II we never bombed any of the Nazi Concentration camps so why should we do it today. Afghanistan towns and cities are concentration camps. We need to save these people not kill them. Once we finish sweeping through Afghanistan and liberate its people from the horrific Taliban, who are a terrorist government, we can then move on. We will need to proceed to do the same thing with the next suspect rogue nation harboring terrorists and then the next country and then the next and next and next. We already know that Saudi Arabia, Sudan, Egypt, Yemen, Ethiopia, Somalia or Pakistan are identified countries with cells of Osama Bin Laden's Terrorist organization.  If you look at the links I have posted on Terrorism you will see there are cells and pockets of terrorist virtually all over the world.
 
If the President, Secretary of Defense and Secretary of State really mean what they say,  that they want to commit the USA into a long long long long term war which will include not just bombing, ground troops, but also intelligence, counter intelligence, political, economic and diplomatic actions, it will be massive, expensive, and exhausting. Loads of American lives may be lost in such an effort. I do not believe at the current time that Americans are well enough informed to have the heart and soul to commit to such an extensive effort. If we do not, the terrorists will prevail and we will see more of their handiwork on American soil and American property overseas.
 
The reason I believe that we need to inform people about terrorists is so that they can understand with what we are dealing. They look like CRAZY people who are actually fanatical and who really believe their reward is to die for their cause. They are like the Nazi's and they will suppress, manhandle, control, degrade, and kill their own people who do not observe their rules, go along with their wishes, and who have minds of their own.
 
We are in for an interesting Debate here in America. I really believe that we will need loads of education and loads of PR to get the American people to WAKE UP to the reality of what has just happened on September 11. Most Americans do not want to believe what they have seen. We have been violated. We have lost our sense of security and "sense of peace without foreboding." We have lost our ability to go to work in the morning without worrying if we will be coming home at night.
 
I tell you like I did in my class tonight that most Americans will not want to come out of their denial. So I want my friends to get out of their denial. I want them to become as informed as I am (and more) and I want them to be ready to take care of me when America loses it momentum to root out and destroy all terrorists all over the world. I want my friends to be able to explain to the world that Jim is not insane when he begins to cry and scream for weeks on end, when America backs away from ridding the world of the scourge of terrorists. I will not be crazy I will be sane. I will be crying over the eventual death of the United States of America as anyone of us has known it, which will eventually piece by piece be destroyed by terrorists who have no intention of giving up. I will be crying because America does not have the steeled will it has today to stick with it till the job is completely done to the end. We Americans only want "quick fixes" which do not cost too many lives, too much money, too much work and effort. We have been really lax at cleaning up the messes in our lives caused by terrorists already:
  • We did not complete the job in the Persian Gulf War.
  • We did not complete the job when we fired a few missiles on Osama Bin Laden's camp in the late 90's.
  • We did not complete the job when the FBI put a $5 million bounty on Osama Bin Laden's Head in 1999.
  • We did not complete the job when the World Trade Center was bombed the first time in 1993.
  • We did not complete the job during the 1990's, when we allowed our greed and need for material wealth to blind us from the harsh realities of our suffering sisters and brothers around the world.
  • We did not complete the job when we preferred to have our media, news agencies, president, congressmen and senators only tell us good stuff rather than the harsh truth of how unsafe our world really is.
I tell you my dear friends I will be crying and screaming the day American turns its back on this incredible task of outing the terrorists. I will be crying and screaming because new more unimaginable terror will land in this country after we stop. This a long-haul type of deal with less flashy bombings needed but rather more exhaustive work, time, and effort. 

This is a very complicated enemy. As Secretary Rumsfield said in his news briefing this morning: getting rid of Osama Bin Laden will not solve the problem of terrorism, we will need to go beyond him and his group if we are truly to rid the world of this scourge.

Well that is my take today on where we are and where we could possibly go. This is a very compelling time. I believe we all need to listen, read, listen, educate other, listen, watch for a lessening and will to do what is right, listen, and Pray, Pray, Pray on our knees for God's wisdom, God's direction, God's desires for us humans at this time when most humans have not prayed enough. We all need to come together in America around God. God is the same God for Christians, Jews, and Muslims. God is our common ground and now we need to be standing on it as we deal with this crazy time.

 
I do not know if I helped or just made the confusion worse. I realize that this is longer than you expected but this is BIG, BIG, BIG. Tonight a student in talking about his paper on perception said that he kept saying over and over to himself: "It was a BIG PLANE that hit the World Trade Towers." For him to really grasp the reality he needed to reaffirm the reality that that plane was BIG and that this BIG PLANE did what it did. We need to tell the American People that it was a BIG PLANE, it is a BIG PLANE and that it will be a BIG PLANE. We need to get our senses together and really have an open dialogue about the truth of what is really going on rather than what we would like to be going on. Unfortunately we cannot escape the reality of the perception: THIS IS A BIG PLANE.
Love and Best Wishes Jim

September 16 - Rationale becomes clears as seen in an email to a friend 

Marty, you might not have really understood why I put that site up this week. You see I have known for a year we were colliding with Bin Laden and terrorists especially the Taliban due to the research I had to do for the violence course I taught at UT in September 1999. I was shocked to find out about the then and ongoing extent of genocide, terrorism and the impact it could have on us. 

After visiting the Holocaust Museum, when we were in DC over Labor Day (Labor Day 2001 Visit to Washington, D.C.),  I told both Connie and Steven that I worried that the US was in the same state of denial and isolationism as it had been at the rise of Hitler and his insane "final solution." We three have been, since September 1999, keeping up with all of the news about what I had found and continued to find since I could not ignore the threats and danger. We had a somber and sad Saturday evening that weekend just thinking about what could happen. 

How do you think we felt when one week later when the USA was attacked on its soil. I was devastated. I was shaken that it was so clear to an observer and yet the rest of the country seemed to be asleep. I cannot believe how few Americans really know what is going on. For that reason I started that site. 

We need to have knowledge so we can gain our sense of control and direction back after these events. I also had told Connie and Steven that weekend that I believed that our country was too caught up in material goods, consumerism, and making wealth. I said that was the reason for the media and government not educating us as well about the threats. I think that we have an obligation to correct our moral compass and turn to our almighty father and plead to him for forgiveness for ignoring HIM for too long. I realize these are not popular feelings but, believe me I will continue to share them since God is the only answer in the midst of such severe emotional distress.

Be sure to watch the site at www.coping.org  it is growing daily and I want so much to get all my friends and family behind this thing since they need to inform themselves so as to be more focused and centered as things transpire over the next few weeks. Well enough of my sermonizing. Peace and love Jim

September 13 - Tribute Site is opened on Coping.org

Introduction to Tribute to the Victims of the September 11, 2001 Terrorist Attacks when site was put on line September 13, 2001

Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28 

We Americans have been horrified, shocked, and outraged over the heinous terrorist attacks on the World Trade Center and the Pentagon. We all are seeking ways to make sense of it, to cope with it, and to recapture some control in our lives as a result of it. For this reason we have established this tribute page. Over the next few days, weeks, months and possible years we will provide information, tributes, memorials about the victims. We also will be providing you with resources already on the internet which can help you make sense of terrorists and how what has happened relates to a broader worldwide terrorism epidemic. Unfortunately, as Americans we have not heard enough, been informed enough, nor taken the time enough to become fully informed about this scourge on the human race. To gain back our ability to understand and to give us a chance to put this all into a realistic picture we dedicate this tribute site to all victims of the September 11th day of infamy.

Please join us in prayer for all of the victims, their families and friends. We know that God is Good and that He is always Good and that we must wait to see what Good, God has in His mind for us all, who have psychologically and physically survived this horrific American Tragedy.

Jim and Connie Messina

"If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free." John 8:31 & 32

Email this date announcing its existence:

Friends I have opened a new site on my website to honor the victims of Tuesday tragedy at www.coping.org  I want to honor their memory and yet inform us all about what is behind these terrorists and who our enemies are. I hope you will share it with your friends and encourage them to send along other sites on the internet which have tributes and memorials or share links pertinent to the terrorist links Thanks Jim

September 12 - The beginnings of this site

Message placed on Bulletin Boards for Dr. Messina's Courses at University of Tampa                    

Links related to Terrorist and Genocide issues identified in class today:

Click here for NYC on September 11, 2001 a visual tribute to a city with courage and resilience. In viewing these slides click on the square button on the bottom right and then use your mouse to advance the pictures.

Click here for A moment of silence

Terrorists:

Taliban:

Genocide:

September 11 - Two Responses which were Major Motivators for this Site

Notice to family and friends our son Steven in Washington was safe

Just to let you know:  Just talked to Steve, the NIH campus is on lockdown, no one is allowed on campus and he and his fellows are safe. They are taking it seriously on his campus. The mood there as you can guess is very solemn and on alert. Love Jim

Response to Students at UT in response to asking how our son in Washington was:

Thanks Stacy: Steve and his fellows living in the cloister on the grounds of NIH are in lockdown as is all of NIH. He, his fellows, and the hundreds of patients on the grounds are safe. But DC is a sad and scary place to be right now.
 
We all need to pray for those unfortunate families who have lost loved ones and pray for our country that we can have the resilience to pull together and work to fight this horrible ignorance and cowardice which has robbed all of us or our innocence and sense of "this would never happen here."
 
We will discuss this tragic time in class for sure tomorrow. Dr. M

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